Amidst the joys and sorrows of planning a wedding, the last thing you need is more stress. Registering for gifts can be a fun way to de-stress… but it can also be a source of new angst. Here are seven ways that you can simplify the registry process — and save your sanity, inspired by Dawn Williams.
1. Don’t overthink the process
Remember: You can always take things back!! Between your invitations, dress, bridesmaids, flowers and everything else there is to worry about, the last thing you need to do is break down over which silver frame to choose.
2. Don’t forget about the groom
They may say they don’t care, but do remember to include your fiancé. If he doesn’t want to join you in the scanning and shopping, ask him if there are any items you can add to the list that he would enjoy. (You’ll earn brownie points for this move.)
3. But…don’t go it alone
Silverware patterns, thread counts, kitchen gadgets: Choosing from all the options can be intimidating and overwhelming — especially when you have a million other things on your mind. Take your mom, a close friend, or sister along. While you’re scanning (or clicking), they can hold on to the lists of things you have or haven’t already registered for (this will make the process go smoother than expected).
4. Don’t register at every store under the sun
Although certain family members may want you to register at places you’ve never even heard of — stick to your guns. Pick a few of your favorite stores or boutiques. This will make it easier to register, and much easier to make returns. After all, the gifts will be going in your home, and you know more about your personal decorating style than anyone else.
5. Don’t be afraid to work the system
When the registry assistants are explaining gifts and perks, be sure to listen. Many of the larger department/retail stores offer free products and discounts with participating vendors. For example, if you register and receive a knife set from a company, you’ll get extra knives for free. Take a few minutes to read the information they give you and plan accordingly.
6. Don’t keep gifts you really don’t want or need
For some reason, many brides feel guilty when they receive a gift and know they won’t use it. The fact of the matter is that you can’t keep every gift, and you’re really not expected to. Don’t feel bad about making returns. Everyone does it.
7. Don’t return gifts one at a time
Once you register, you’d be surprised at how quickly the gifts start rolling in. Suppress the urge to take back duplicates or those gifts that you’ve had a change of heart about, and wait to take them back in bulk…after the chaos of the engagement and wedding have subsided. You’ll save yourself time, effort, and most of all, your sanity.